If I could sit across from my younger self, heart full and eyes wide, I’d speak to her gently—but truthfully. I’d tell her everything I now know through pain, growth, love, and healing. Life doesn’t come with a manual, but if it did, these ten lessons would be printed on the first few pages. Here’s what I would say to her:
1. Start Your Personal Development Journey Sooner
Forget the modelling castings and acting gigs—they were fun, yes, but deep down, you always knew your passion lived elsewhere. Your voice was meant to teach, guide, and inspire. Mentoring, life coaching, creating content with intention—that’s where your true power lies. If only you’d leaned into that sooner. But it’s never too late to rise, and rise you have.
2. Family Doesn’t Always Mean Support
Some family members will watch but never clap. They’ll scroll past your wins, share nothing, buy nothing—but that’s okay. You’ve learned that love and support don’t always come from the places you expect. The fruits of your labour aren’t for everyone. And when your harvest comes in, not everyone gets a seat at the table. Let that fuel you—not break you.
3. You Never Really Know Anyone
You spent 18 years believing your surroundings were safe, that the people around you had your back. But when the abuse began, some of those very people turned on you. It was a brutal awakening. But it also taught you something vital: the only person you can truly trust is yourself. And that’s not sad—that’s powerful. Trust your gut. Always.
4. Make Exercise a Lifestyle, Not a Phase
You’ve always dipped in and out of fitness—starting, stopping, restarting. But your body and mind thrive when movement is a constant. It’s not just about how you look—it’s about how you feel. Energy. Clarity. Confidence. You’re building that lifestyle now, and younger you would be so proud.
5. Read More
Books were always there—sitting on shelves, stacked on desks, waiting to be opened. But you were too busy to make time for them. If I could go back, I’d tell you to slow down, carve out space, and read consistently. Because books aren’t just entertainment—they’re transformation. One book a week could have changed your path completely. You know that now. And there’s still time.
6. Prioritise Sleep
Let go of the “team no sleep” mentality. Burnout isn’t a badge of honour. Sleep is sacred—it fuels your glow, heals your mind, and powers your purpose. I’d tell you to create a sleep routine and protect it. Rest is not lazy. Rest is necessary. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
7. You Already Had the Best—Love Him
You searched for something more when the best thing had already found you. You questioned, wandered, wondered. But now you see it clearly: your man is the one. The love you have now is real, solid, and rare. I’d tell you to recognise it sooner, appreciate it deeper, and never let ego push you away from what’s true.
8. Travel More, Sooner
The world is big—and your spirit was always meant to explore it. You’re planning trips now, but younger you needed that escape. That expansion. Travel stretches your mind and heals your soul. Start sooner. Say yes to new places, new faces, and the beauty of the unknown.
9. Get Financially Literate Early
If there’s one area you could rewind and re-do, it would be this. The credit cards, the loans, the impulse spending—it all caught up with you. But not because you were reckless. You just weren’t taught. I’d tell you to learn about money, master it, and let it work for you. Budget. Save. Invest. And don’t let financial mistakes define your future. You’re rewriting the narrative now—and that’s what matters most.
10. Live in the Now
You spent too long in your head—replaying the past or worrying about the future. But the real magic lives in the present. Gratitude. Mindfulness. Being here, now. That’s where your peace is. That’s where your power lies. Had you known this earlier, you’d have moved differently. But the fact that you know it now? That’s everything.
Final Thoughts
To my younger self—thank you for being resilient, even when you didn’t feel strong. You didn’t have it all figured out, but you never gave up. And now, you’re exactly where you need to be.
To every woman reading this: take what resonates and leave the rest. There’s no perfect timeline, no flawless journey. But trust me—when you start showing up for yourself consistently, everything begins to shift.
With love,
Sasha x
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