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The Truth About Being ‘Too Much’: Embrace Your Extra

21 April

Sis, let’s get into it.

How many times have you been told you’re too loud, too ambitious, too dramatic, too opinionated, or just too damn much? Somewhere along the way, society decided that women—especially bold, confident, vibrant women—needed to tone it down. And many of us, myself included, spent years shrinking ourselves just to fit into a mold that was never made for us.

But here’s the truth: being ‘too much’ is a gift. And it’s time we embrace our extra.

You Weren’t Born to Be Basic

Let’s be real—there’s nothing inspiring about playing small. You were born with fire, flavour, and flair for a reason. That bold laugh, your bold opinions, the way you take up space unapologetically? That’s your magic. Don’t let anyone convince you that you need to water yourself down to be palatable.

When they say you’re too much, what they’re really saying is:
You make me uncomfortable because you remind me of the parts of myself I’ve silenced.

Dimming Your Light Won’t Make Them Shine Brighter

One of the biggest lies we’re sold as women is that we should make ourselves “less” to make others feel comfortable. But guess what? Shrinking yourself to fit into someone else’s expectations won’t get you love, success, or respect. It just leaves you disconnected from your true self.

Be loud. Be passionate. Wear the outfit. Launch the business. Speak your truth. Walk into the room like you own it. Because the world needs more of the real you, not less.

Your ‘Extra’ Is Your Power

Let’s flip the script.

You’re not too emotional—you’re emotionally intelligent.
You’re not too opinionated—you’re insightful and courageous.
You’re not too loud—you’re expressive and magnetic.
You’re not too ambitious—you’re focused and unstoppable.

Everything they said you should tone down? That’s exactly what sets you apart. That’s what builds movements, launches brands, and changes lives.

How to Fully Own Your Extra

Here are 5 things I want you to do today:

Rewrite the narrative: Replace “I’m too much” with “I’m powerful, passionate, and full of purpose.”
Show up fully: Speak up in meetings. Wear the statement outfit. Post the bold caption. Stop waiting for permission.
Set boundaries with those who dim you: If someone’s constantly trying to mute your magic, it’s time to rethink their access.
Celebrate your uniqueness: Journal your quirks, your passions, your dreams. Honour the parts of you that stand out.
Find your tribe: Surround yourself with women who hype you, not hush you. Community is everything.