Well guys, this week; no scrap that, the past few months have been a little topsy turvy. I’ve had every issue that could happen, happen and as much as I’ve dealt with everything with as much decorum and with a high level of pride, it’s not been easy. We’re told that God gives his biggest challenges to those who can handle it. But here I am wondering why he thinks I need them. I can’t name one area of my life at present that is ‘ok’, so to speak. Every space that I’ve been comfortable in, is no longer comfortable. I’m surrounded by people who would rather talk about themselves than be any support to me. My passions are being dampened by the expectations and false interests of others and for the first time in my life, I’m actually contemplative about leaving the UK altogether and starting anew some place else.
I honestly don’t feel there is anything holding me here and so I’m committed to working towards building and growing elsewhere.
I’ve had the opportunity to touch base with a lot of great women via my magazine and through my social circles and I’m finding that many of them are going through a similar block. They like me feel like the issues, conflicts and dilemma’s are one to many and they don’t feel equipped to work through yet another barrier.
I have felt that all week. I’ve questioned why I’m doing what i’m doing, I’ve deliberated whether I want to walk away from everything I’ve been involved in to date, draw a solid line beneath it and venture to pastures new.
However, what I realised is that running away from your problems does not solve them or immediately eradicate them from your life. Hiding your head in the sand like an ostrich will not magically make your issues go away and when you do rear you head, guess what… your problem’s will be right there waiting for you. (No Richard Mark- 80’s babies /music lovers will get that one!)
So in no particular order… here’s 5 quick fire reasons why you dare not give up on yourself or throw in the towel. I’m rooting for you as much as I’m rooting for myself so let’s strive to tighten up our armour and step out to fight for the life we really want and no we deserve.
There are a one or more people who want you to give up.
Never has truer words been spoken. I have found this statement to be VERY TRUE in my life and as I get older, the list gets seemingly bigger. You may think; it doesn’t matter what they think about you. My answer is, it should. They don’t determine whether you make it or not, you do. But if they’re bad mouthing you and/or saying things underhandedly all to knock you off your path. You owe it yourself to show them that they’re not the boss over your life and that their opinions of who you’re are not valid. Show them what you’re made of. Winners don’t quit and quitters don’t win.
There are one or more people who want you to keep going
This one is a very important one. Too often we give light to the naysayers and the haters and not shine enough light on those who support us, want us to grow and believe we are capable and worthy of success. My mother is my biggest cheerleader and one of the most unselfish people I’ve ever met. She knows all that I’m going through and often wonders why I don’t just stop. On the other hand, she says the right things to ensure that I keep going no matter what. I also have a number of friends and supporters who like every picture, read every post and support in every way they can. You may think you don’t have people in you close or outer circle that wants you to succeed. But, just look a little harder. They’re there, tooting the horn the loudest.
You owe it to yourself
I say it all them time. Tomorrow is not promised and time is precious. With this being said, you can’t stand there and become your own worst enemy, slamming your efforts and putting yourself down, comparing yourself to others and not believing you’re worthy of success or the better things life can offer. I’ve been there, wore the t-shirt, lost the t-shirt and purchased a brand new one. It wasn’t nice and was uncomfortable to wear but there I was still wearing it for years. Not thinking I was good enough led me down a seriously bad path of self-destruction. I knew I didn’t deserve to treat myself like that but I went ahead and did anyway. I now know that in tough times, I’m resilient, I’m a good person and I’m deserving of being happy and content in my life. I owe it to myself to never give up on myself or my passions and I’m here to tell you that you shouldn’t give up either. If one way doesn’t work, look at another. Just don’t come to a halt, you deserve better than that. We all do.
About this look…..
Classy or what? I needed to shoot another co-ordinate as I’m still obsessed with them. Of course as you know, I need things to be affordable so went back to the affordable online boutique Shanny’s Boutique to pick this beautiful number up. Although it’s not available now, I’ve seen similar on Missy Empire and Miss Pap so go on their site and look at the ‘co-ordinate’ pieces to see what you can pick up. This set was £30.
Feedback on this look has been very complimentary. I love the colour on my complexion and with this colour, I think the darker or more tanned you are, the better the outfit looks.
I had originally opted for pale lips but then changed it to a darker shade as an after thought and I’m glad I did. My feather heels are from Primark and were only £10 and are still available in an array of colours. Trust Primark to deliver when I needed it most.
What’s your thoughts on this look? Yay or Nay?? x